The Farewell Chronicles: [How We Really Respond to Death]

The Farewell Chronicles How We Really Respond to Death The longer we live the of those around us will die And while Hallmark sympathy cards and sad movies tell us we should grieve death arouses a lot of other feelings in us as well weird unnerving com

  • Title: The Farewell Chronicles: [How We Really Respond to Death]
  • Author: Anneli Rufus
  • ISBN: 9781569243817
  • Page: 484
  • Format: Paperback
  • The longer we live, the of those around us will die And while Hallmark sympathy cards and sad movies tell us we should grieve, death arouses a lot of other feelings in us as well weird, unnerving, complicated feelings, which we re terrified to talk about because we suspect that, if we did, we would be judged as crazy, cold, unfilial, unfaithful, or immature So at thThe longer we live, the of those around us will die And while Hallmark sympathy cards and sad movies tell us we should grieve, death arouses a lot of other feelings in us as well weird, unnerving, complicated feelings, which we re terrified to talk about because we suspect that, if we did, we would be judged as crazy, cold, unfilial, unfaithful, or immature So at these crucial times, facing the biggest and most momentous dramas of our lives, we lock away deep inside us our own true responses In so doing, we cut ourselves off from the rest of the world and from whomever we ve lost, from our hearts and minds and from the ultimate drama that is a death in the midst of life Questioning our sanity, doubting our humanity, we hide, pretend and even lie This book helps us tell the truth to ourselves, to the dead, and to each other Revisiting the deaths of many people she has known loved ones, casual acquaintances, children and adults, friends and enemies prizewinning journalist Anneli Rufus gives powerful, eloquent voice to everyone who has ever lost anyone and whose reactions wouldn t fit into the standard template of feel sad, cry, then get over it.

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    About " Anneli Rufus "

  • Anneli Rufus

    Anneli Rufus is an award winning American journalist and author.Born in Los Angeles, California, she first went to college in Santa Barbara, then to the University of California, Berkeley Rufus earned an English degree and became a journalist She s written for many publications, including Salon, the San Francisco Chronicle and the Boston Globe Currently she is the literary editor for the East Bay Express, an alternative weekly newspaper She is now married and resides in Berkeley, California.

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  • I know that I'm not a good writer but I'm trying to write for the sake to share my ideas, so for those people who hate my reviews or the things that I wrote online, one thing that pop in my mind, Death is coming into your life, I'm not joking, I mean part of it.I saw this book lying in a bookstore stand and no one even cared to read the synopsis of the book, I bought it because it was cheap and I like the title. Yes I'm trying to say the truth, at first I don't cared buying the whole book but af [...]


  • "It is a vast, worldwide society whose members share no privileges, no solidarity, no secret handshakes, no discounts at Legoland." Rufus explores what it means to be a member of this society of survivors, those left behind after someone has died. In the introduction, she writes about the responses we were not told we might expect, and some of the chapter titles, (each representing an emotion) reflect that: Greed, Relief, Apathy. She discusses her own experiences with death - losing her father, [...]


  • What I found enjoyable about this book is the honesty and the approach to the 'inaproriate' feelings people often have in the midst of a death, when the world has expectations of how one should mourn. I have to admit I cringed when she wrote about the death of a college classmate whom others were cruel too. Shocking and yet, very very human. It is a change to read this subject without the sap that so many such books accompany. Sure many deaths outright break you, but it's a fact some don't even [...]


  • If you've ever been bothered by an "inappropriate" response to a death--anger, apathy, joy--then this is a book you should read. The author has had a lot of death happen around her and many varied responses. In The Farewell Chronicles, she explores the whys and concludes that the "sadness" that is deemed appropriate is not the only viable emotion. She has a healthy view that she shares here.


  • Searing, and exactly what I needed to read now. Rufus chronicles her own journey through loss, bravely facing up to the things one doesn't speak of in polite society after one is bereaved. She talks about feelings of indifference, anger, guilt, and many others. Illustrated with lots of incidents from her own life, presented unflinchingly. Recommended.



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